How To Achieve Success and What You Need To Fulfill Your Vision

What You Need To Fulfill Your Vision

Do you know that all you need to fulfill your vision
is right where you are?

As strange as it sounds, it is very true. A lot of people think they need millions but the potential
for a miracle is very close to you. Once you have a vision, the provision will follow.

One critical thing you need to fulfill your vision is the ability
to recognize potentials. Potentials in your environment, in
the situations you find yourself, in people and most importantly,
potentials in yourself...

Be Your Own Boss

"If you see it,
you can believe it, if you can believe it you can behave it, and if you can behave it, then you can become it."

How To Dress Modestly

How To Dress Modestly

• Remember: just because you decide to dress more modestly doesn't mean you have to abandon all
  hope of dressing in a unique and cute manner. You're not doomed to live life in a floor length jumper. Instead, look at this as a chance to get the style you've always wanted. Have fun with finding a classier more beautiful you! Shopping for cool modest clothing may seem tricky at first, but you get better and better as time goes by. Pretty soon all your friends will want to know where you get your clothes.
• Buy long shirts. Let's face it; few people look good in clothes that reveal their stomachs and lower backs. Long shirts cover the waist and prevent the likelihood of an embarrassing situation when bending over.
• Making the transition to a more modest lifestyle is always easier if you do it with a friend. Find a good shopping buddy who's just as interested in changing their wardrobe as you are. You can help each other when deciding what's appropriate, and you can help each other with finding and arranging awesome outfits.
• You can be both trendy and modest! For example, you can still wear the statement necklace and bangles with a looser shirt and a long skirt.
• Layer your clothing! Have a tight long-sleeved shirt? Wear a loose sleeveless shirt over it as a vest. It looks really stylish when done correctly and keeps with the reverence of the female form.
• Love your miniskirts? That's okay! They look adorable layered over longer skirts, cropped pants, leggings, or your favorite pair of jeans.

Why Lagos Bans Indecent Dressing by Female Civil Servants

Lagos Bans Indecent Dressing by Female Civil Servants

The Lagos State Government has rolled out a dress code for its female workers with a directive that none of them should wear clothes, such as miniskirts,  that  expose their cleavages, body shape and other sensitive female body parts.

The decision was taken as a result of worsening cases of indecent dressing among female public servants at the  state secretariat, Alausa, Ikeja.

A circular issued by the Head of Service (HoS), Mrs. Josephine Williams, dated  February 7, 2014 has been sent to all government ministries, departments and agencies (MDAs) calling on all directors of Finance and Administration (DFAs) to immediately enforce the new dress code.

The circular said a similar directive was issued through the HoS in 2005 in a circular number 113 mandating public servants to dress properly and decently to the office and official functions.

The government warned that it would begin to take drastic and punitive measures against recalcitrant public servants who flout the directive.

“It has however been observed with grave concern that some officers have not been complying with this directive. The noticeable non-compliance of some officers to this directive should henceforth stop as the extant civil service rules and regulation on proper and indecent dressing still subsist and will be applied accordingly on flouters,” the HoS said.

Williams listed what is contained in the new dress code for female civil servants, saying that skirts above the knee should not be worn by public servants, adding that dresses allowed are skirts which are of knee level, have moderate slits and not body clinging skirts.

According to her, if female public servants must wear pairs of trousers, they should neither be tight nor revealing and must be worn with a jacket.

Also, gowns to be worn by female public servants must be of knee level, with moderate slits and must neither be sleeveless nor body clinging.

Williams added that if native attires must be worn, they must be worn completely.
The government also reeled out dress code for male public servants. In the dress code for men, administrative officers must wear suits and ties as professionals and other officers could wear  suits and ties or French suit.

Junior and clerical staff are allowed to wear shirts and trousers and French suit while complete native wear is allowed for all cadres of public servants.

“As a matter of necessity, all Directors of Finance and Administration are hereby enjoined to ensure that officers within their purview adhere strictly to moderate and decent dressing,” said the circular.

How to know if a woman is sexually attracted to you

You want to be able to tell if a woman is sexually attracted to you so that you know when to make your move on her

You want to be able to tell if a woman is sexually attracted to you so that you know when to make your move on her. If you could just find some signs that a woman wanted you that way – it would change everything for you as far as your dating and your sex life goes. However, as most guys can attest to, it’s not always easy to figure out when a woman is clearly showing you signs that she is feeling very attracted to you sexually. What are some body language signs that you can look out for so that you DO know when a woman wants you that way?
Here are a few body language signs to look out for if you want to know how to tell if a woman is sexually attracted to you:

1. She can’t keep her eyes off of you.

If you see that she is making eye contact with you and that eye contact seems to linger a little bit too long, then you can usually take that as being a very good sign that she might feel sexually attracted to you. The more flirtatious that eye contactis, the better. You don’t want to think that EVERY woman who makes any eye contact with you wants you like that, but you can assume that if you are getting serious stares from a woman that seem to be very flirty, that she probably does feel sexually attracted to you.

2. She is trying really hard to get closer to you physically.

The more effort she seems to be putting in trying to get next to you, the more likely it is that she is sexually attracted to you. That’s not always the case, but most of the time it is. For example, if you are getting serious eye contact from a woman in a club and she is getting closer and closer to you, that is probably a GOOD time for you to try to take things to the next level.

3. She is touching you physically.

If she escalates to the point where she is touching you physically, that is also a pretty good sign that she is sexually attracted to you. You don’t want to get it wrong, though, not every time a woman touches you is going to be a clear sign that she wants you sexually. However, when it comes after the flirting has already started and it happens to be an intimate kind of physical touch, that should usually be taken as a sign that she probably DOES feel sexually attracted to you.

10 Tips on How to Attract Any Man

10 Powerful Tips on How to Attract Any Man (Get His Attention)

 This write up will help you not only to find this hidden turn-on, but will also give you some ideas on how to attract any man and win the man you want. This article is the type most men don’t like women to know much about because it bring out or disclose men weaknesses and thus leave them defenseless. Guys are already murmuring and some of them thought I’m a lady, sorry! I’m a guy, that is why I can write on this particular topic, and whatever I talk/write about in this article will affect all men and I’m not exempted. On the other hand, some will be happy seeing this article and they will want to celebrate me, because most men want to be seduced.

The principle of seduction is the same whether you want to seduce your man or you want to seduce any man. It really comes down to hitting that “hidden switch” that turns the man on. I’m sorry to say here that this specific switch is different to every man. Sometimes it is not even related to physical build up of the men, it can be a word, an image in his head, an expectation. On other times you can trigger it with a simple smile, a lascivious look (the kind of looks that shows strong sexual desire), a seemingly coincidental touch.

Above all, “ It is your job to find and explore this secret switch on your man.”

My male readers will discover that several of these techniques can be used to seduce a woman as well. Maybe we’re not that different after all. Are you surprise?

Below are the 10 principles you can you to seduce any man.

1. The Power of Scent

The scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgments. The scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgments. In a survey 89 % of the men revealed that the scent can enhance the attractiveness of a women. 55 % of those polled men went a little further and admitted that they would get amorous with a women just because of her appealing scent. Do you believe that? You’d better do! Everybody who has seen or read “Perfume: The Story of a Murderer” would know what I’m talking about.

The scent is one of the most powerful subconscious influences that affect our judgments about the other sex. The way you scent is a vital factor of your success in seduction. You can compare it to pheromones in the animal world. A woman can enhance her natural pheromones by using aromatherapy oils like sandalwood, rose, ylang, jasmine and patchouli. They are known for their aphrodisiac properties. Shakespeare wrote that Cleopatra received Marc Anthony on a ship with perfumed sails. The exotic scent made him fall in love with her immediately. Even that hopelessly that he gave his life for her.

Use a perfume that you like but be careful not to overdo it. Use it sparingly and apply it to your body’s so called pulse points: wrists, behind your ears, in the bend of your elbow, behind your knees and on the inside of your ankles. You can also try to spray the perfume in the air in front of you and walk into the mist. Make your perfume a recognizable part of you. Make your scent imprinted in his mind.

2. Meeting Point “the where factor”

Believe me, the “where” is very crucial to your success. Choosing a Sports-Bar with the Superbowl on may not be crowned with success. A private dinner with the appropriate romantic ambiance on the other hand will give you the best chances.

Choose places where you can minimize distractions (and ideally competition). You must have his complete attention. Besides, the proper surrounding can be very stimulative. Never underestimate the power of candlelight and the adequate soft music.

3. Don’t Reveal it All; Show A Little, But Hide A Little More

There is a certain way how to dress that drives men crazy. And I certainly don’t mean going slutty. This is a turn-off for most men. You need to find a compromise between showing and hiding your womanly qualities. It’s the right combination that makes the secret. I like women, who enhance certain body regions without actually showing anything. Steer clear of the obvious. It is very important that you actually feel sexy. And don’t forget some killer-lingerie and sexy accessories like bracelets and necklaces.

4. Be Super-Confident

Have the confidence of a super-model. Be a woman who knows what she wants and how to get it. Do you know how to do this? But be aware: there is also a thin red line, if you overdo it, you will most likely look arrogant instead of confident. You don’t want that. Nobody likes arrogance. You can start with renewing yourself, get a complete fresh-up: a new haircut, clothes, start losing weight. Never underestimate what a new haircut can do to you. Also watch your posture: keep a straight back and your shoulders backwards, expose your chest. Do everything that makes your confidence boost. Men are very impressed by confidence.

5. Send Signs of Interest

Now it’s time to spread a little hope that the man have actually a chance on you. Send him little signs of interest from time to time that make him come forward:

• Pick some fluff of his jacket (even if there is none!).
• Face him directly and slightly lean forward every now and then.
• Show unclenched hands. Play with your hair or caress other objects.
• Push your fingers through your hair.
• Wet and bite your lips from time to time

Here again: do not overdo it!

Experienced men can read these signs, the inexperienced, well, they feel that something’s going on.

6. Killing Eyes – The French Technique

Start with almost accidentally sidelong glances. You can follow up with a direct look. Now something starts what can be described as playful innocence (someone once said to me that the French girls invented that): The moment he looks back you instantly lower your eyes and put on an embarrassed smile. You can even emphasize that some moments later by looking again, this time longer and then again lower your eyes.

This is flirting without talking (we can learn a lot from the French, when it comes to lovemaking).

7. Touch Him “Accidentally”

When you reach for something, try to accidentally touch his hand. Don’t make it too obvious. Also touch him briefly during the conversation to make a point or when he just made an interesting remark about something.

The secret is being playful with casually touches now and then. This creates tension and also a physical connection. And more importantly: it subconsciously communicates that you’re not interested in “only being friends”.

8. The Power of Erotic Dancing

This one is short and simple: learn how to dance in an erotic way and look for an opportunity for him to see. Don’t underestimate the power of this. Most women love to express themselves on the dance floor. Why not learning it and doing it the right way? There are courses on this, or just go to a club, watch and learn.

This is very powerful.

9. Anticipation Magic

Now, here’s a good one. This is a variation of “play hard to get”, which by the way is a very doubtful thing. If overdone it will harm you more than being of use. Instead, play a little game called “anticipation”. Anticipation, excitement, and tension can be a huge turn-on for a man. Delay the gratification. Make two steps forward, one step back. Create a strong feeling of dissatisfaction in him. A dissatisfaction which can only be resolved by having you. It must never seem to be easy for him.

Make two steps forward, one step back. Contradict Yourself! Use the before mentioned signs of interest, then suddenly show disinterest, ignore him for two minutes. Then start again. Two steps forward, one step back.

10. The Secret Ingredient

Now, there is a final ingredient to a successful seduction of a man: He must not feel seduced. He must think that he seduced you, not the other way around. Give him his victory, let him be the hero. Men like that. It gives them a feeling of security.

Conclusion

These are some other useful tips in short:

• Be mysterious and playful

• Awake the explorer in him

• Let him do most of the talking

• Flirt intensively with 90 % body-language and only 10 % with words

• Contradict yourself, confuse him

• Try to make an all-senses-explosion: looks, taste, music, touch, scent

• Take care never to appear too needy.

There you have them, the powerful tips on how to attract any man, get his attention and occupy his brain.

I will strongly advise you to read this Article to the end and take action if you want to capture any man’s heart.

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How To Know If You No Longer Feel In Love With Your Spouse

Do you no longer feel "in love" with your spouse

I had an “aha” moment the other day when talking to a client about finding a solution to her marital problem. She had a laundry list of “things” he did to irritate her. None of which were worth ending a marriage and dismantling a family.

Then she says to me, “I’m not in love with him.” And it hit me, she was not able to see the solution to the problem because she was basing her desire to divorce on a feeling…the feeling of romantic love. I immediately started humming that old song, “What’s Love Got to do With It” and wondering why people expect to marry and feel constantly “in love.”

There is a difference between romantic love and committed love.

• Passionate love is defined by Hatfield as a “state of intense longing for union with another.”
• Companionate love is the affection we feel for those with whom our lives are deeply entwined.”

When we first meet and fall in love we have butterflies in our tummy, long to spend every moment with the object of our love and are consumed by thoughts of him/her. The problem with romantic/passionate love is that it doesn’t last. It is a phase we move through on our way to committed/companionate love.

The longer we are with someone the less intense we feel, the less consumed we become because it is only natural that life and the realities of living a productive life begin to take precedence again. The problem in today’s society is that, some expect romantic/passionate love to last forever and when those feelings are gone they want to move on and find it again.

They either don’t want to settle for committed/companionate love or don’t understand that, that is what love is…a series of phases we go through that lead to a love that leaves us with feelings of sincere concern and caring for another person.

We hear more about the experience of romantic/passionate love. It is well covered in movies, books and the media. It is understandable that a person would be confused about the state of their marriage when they pass through the initial phase of butterflies and weak knees to deep concern and caring.

Weak knees and butterflies are so much more fun than deep concern and caring, I fully understand that. I can also understand the quest for such a love but what we all need to understand is this…we have a choice, live our lives constantly seeking romantic/passionate love or reveling in the contentment that comes from deep concern and caring for another.

The next time you think to yourself, “I no longer love him/her” answer the questions below:

1.     Do I respect his/her values and belief system?

2.     Do I want him/her to feel good?

3.     Am I concerned about his/her well-being?

4.     Are his/her feelings important to me?

5.     Do I appreciate the things he/she does for me?

6.     Do I want to do things for him/her?

7.     Is he/she good to me?

8.     Do I want to be good to him/her?

If you can answer these questions with a yes then you have moved from romantic/passionate love to committed/companionate love. You are right where you are supposed to be! You’ve come to a place in your relationship where finding meaning in simple things and shared values is more important than feeling butterflies in your tummy.

I read an article recently by a woman who had divorced her husband because she did not want to settle for a “companionate relationship.” I wondered to myself if this woman would ever realize that she had thrown away the most valuable thing she would ever have. You see, when you get to that phase of love, you’ve found “true love.”

3 Reasons Why Men Leave Women

3 Reasons Why Men Leave Women

Any ordinary guy with a group of male friends will agree with one or more of the following reasons. These are REAL reasons taken from men as to why they have or would have left their relationships. You don't need a relationship expert to explain to you why a man leaves. Sometimes the answers are relatively simple. I don't provide any behavioral theories such as men not being breastfed or being neglected at childhood as a reason for leaving the relationship (although it may apply to some).

So for you ladies who keep asking yourself and/or others as to why men walk away from relationships, these are some of the reason:

 
1. Nagging :This is an honest reason. Ladies, some of you don't realize it but you may nag your partner to death. There is only so much he can take. You may have to ask him to do things more than once but he will eventually get to it. If he doesn't wind up doing it after the third or fourth request, take a moment to find out why before you go into a fit. Did he just get off work? Did he just get home from somewhere? Did he just finish something that may require him to relax for a few minutes? If none of these apply, then he may be just plain lazy and you should be questioning whether you really want him back.

2. Sex : If it's unsatisfying or you are denying him to the point where he questions whether he is living in a monastery or at home, chances are this is a BIG reason. Is he being unreasonable or are you?

3. Love:This is one of the more painful reasons. He may have fallen out of love or may have fallen in love with someone else.