How to Know If You are Marrying the Right Person

How to Know If You are Marrying the Right Person

One of the factors that make us a complete man or woman who will be highly respected and responsible individual is to be married. One needs to be extra careful in the process of looking for a right person to choose as a life partner.

Searching for Miss or Mr Right is not always an easy task. Once you think you've found the right person, you may have doubts. Having doubts about who you are marrying is not only normal, having doubts is healthy.

The following factors are the most considered factors that man or woman always put into consideration whenever he or she looks Mr or Miss right.

·        Shouldn't marry someone who drinks too much.

·        Shouldn't marry someone who spends too much.

·        Shouldn't marry someone who works too much.

·        Shouldn't marry someone who brags too much.

·        Shouldn't marry someone who uses drugs or other illegal behaviour.

·        Shouldn't marry someone who is cruel, dishonest or unfaithful.

Happiness at All Time

It is not realistic expecting a spouse to make you feel happy all the time. Being with the right person can bring happiness and a sense of personal strength to your life.

Being a Supportive Spouse

It is easy to know if you are marrying the right person because the right person will want you to be emotionally healthy and able to stand on your own two feet. Being with Mr or Miss Right makes you feel good about yourself, safe, and fulfilled both emotionally and intellectually.

Negativity

The right person will not be negative, selfish, wishy washy, silent, embarrassing, critical, or a slob.

Affection and Love

Someone you want to marry must be person who is understanding and agreeable to your wants and needs when it comes to sex and affection.

You will know you are marrying the right person if your future spouse says "I love you" not only in words spoken, but by loving actions. Loving actions is doing things such as noticing when you are tired, remembering your birthday, wanting to spend time with you, listening to you, showing you respect, calling if you are running late, showing you affection, being patient with you if you don't understand something, kissing you hello and goodbye, and hugging you for no special reason.

Sex

You will know you are marrying the right person if you are sexually compatible with one another. If the two of you view sexual intimacy differently or have different libidos, your marriage relationship will suffer.

Friendly

The right person is someone who you like and who is your friend. The right person will enjoy spending time with you. Your love and your marriage will slowly fade if the two of you are not friends.

Kind, Considerate, And Polite

The right person is kind, considerate, and polite. Little things in life such as saying 'thank you' and holding a door open may seem old fashioned, but they do reflect the amount of caring and kindness in a person.

Communication, Goals, and Values

You and the right person will have similar goals and values in life.

Having different likes and different opinions is okay as long as the two of you agree to disagree. Although you may not always agree with one another, conversations with the right person will be interesting and not boring. The right person will communicate thoughts and feelings with you and will not keep hurts and concerns bottled up inside.

Understanding that the only constant in life is change, the right person is willing to discuss marriage issues, questions, and topics with you both before and after you get married.

Decision Making and Walking Together

The right person will encourage you to make decisions to live a healthy lifestyle by eating healthier foods and getting exercise. The right person will want to work with you to balance your work and personal lives.
Feeling as if you are the only one picking things up around the house or taking care of the kids can get old. The right person is willing to share in the responsibilities of your home and future children.

Issues of Difficulties or Differences

Finding the right person doesn't mean that the two of you won't have difficulties or differences to deal with. However, with the right person you will know that the two of you will be able to work through the issues that could hurt your relationship. The way you handle disagreements and conflict shows psychologists more than what you fight about.

Trust and Honesty:          The right person will be honest with you and trust you. He or she will not monitor your phone calls, or computer usage, or limit the amount of time you spend with others you care about. You will know you are marrying the right person if your future spouse does not try to isolate you from your family and friends. You not only need to belong to family, friends, groups, etc., you have the right to do so. The right person in your life will not try to control your life but will want to share a life with you. The wrong person will make you feel as if you must walk on egg shells in order to keep peace in your home. The right person will trust you and not spy on you. Feeling as if you have to justify your every move will become a very heavy burden.

Privacy

The right person for you should be able to acknoledge your privacy or time you need to be alone. When you are not been questioned about your need for time alone or personal space, you should know you are marrying the right person.

Problematic Issues

If you realise that there are problematic issues in your relationship, do not ignore them or delude yourself into thinking that the issues are not that important or that someone you love will change.

Don't Enter Marriage Thinking That All You Need is Love